Making good choices in the face of ugly scenarios – First, Get Clear
Lately I’ve had a big decision to make. One of those huge, life changing ones where you want to pick a path and go down it with the certainty of a specific outcome. Problem is, after consulting with untold professionals and discussing every angle, I still don’t know what to do. I have never vacillated like this before in my life. There is no one “best choice” in this scenario. Every outcome is unclear.
My ego hates uncertainty and limbo. I must have said to others hundreds of times,”Make a decision already! Just pick!” So I was not liking myself too much at this stage.
It’s not only my choice to make. It involves others to a great degree. But in the past I’ve always known what I wanted to do. It was more a battle with others to come to a mutual agreement of how to move forward. I have always seen the forest for the trees and also enjoyed my time looking at the bark up close and personal.
I just read a great article by Paul over at http://www.paulymath.com/ called “Why Most People Fail To Solve Their Own Problems.” In a nutshell, to solve a Big Problem, he says to get it down to the one immediate action step you can take. I love this advice because action steps inevitably get somewhere. If you’re not one of those people who have a mental organizational chart with all of the Yes/No decision boxes in your head, read the article.
Analysis Paralysis or, Make A Decision Already!
I have taken about 100 action steps to solve this Big Problem. And it has not gone away. That’s because I had decision paralysis – I don’t know what I want the outcome to be. It’s hard for the Universe to help you when you don’t know where you’re going. We’re getting closer though, and here’s why:
I asked my Team to please cut through any unnecessary steps on the path to resolution. To present me with the people, places, and information I actually need, and eliminate the superfluous. This helped me to narrow down the field of choices.
Then the day came when I had Had It. My emotions started revolting. So, how do you calm yourself when your life is in turmoil?
I asked. Very specifically. I needed calm, clarity, and for something to start to happen to push me in one clear direction or another, because I just could not do it for one more day under such a cloud of confusion. I know that you aren’t supposed to put a time constraint on any request to the Universe but I just needed clarity. Now.
What happened? That very day I heard from four people with:
- An offer of help
- An offer to buy
- Help on an ongoing basis, for FREE, and an immediate answer which narrowed down the choices
- A critical clarification
I would say that was a result.
How To Make The Decision and Get Unstuck
Let’s break it down:
Recognize the Fear
Find the Quiet and Just Be
Then Get Things Done