You Can Go Your Own Way
You aren’t going to find your way, your truth, through following what someone else tells you to do.
Each person starts their work in their own way. If at the beginning of your cycle you start by grasping for guidance, courses, books, coaches, what anyone else thinks about your experience, or what anyone else did in their own experience, then you have just derailed yourself.
I cannot tell you how many times I did not seek someone else’s input into this work, while everyone around me was hiring coaches, finding gurus, spending god-awful amounts of money on programs, and really worried about followers, plug-ins, themes, SEO, and countless other things.
All of those things are distractions.
You know I am not shy about opening my mouth when I see someone going off track. I’ve learned, of course, that they don’t usually have “ears to hear.” They have to come to their own conclusions and understandings at their own pace, in their own time, in their destined way.
So I’ve learned to shut up and ask the universe, “Is it time yet?” I can feel their head shaking no, and I have learned to quiet myself and let that be okay that it’s really not my business or my work to do. Everyone does their own.
Someone who is on track and allows themself to take a complete side mission into what’s wrong for them or their business.
Someone who has an astonishing gift that is as plain as the nose on their face but cannot see it and runs around in circles for years or decades, spending tons of money with others, when I already told them what they need to know, for free.
Does it irk me and ping my ego sometimes when, years after I told them, they credit someone else with the “epiphany” that changed their life? Yeah, okay, sometimes it does. Mostly today I am just glad that they finally got there, and I am okay with taking my contribution and knowing that it didn’t make a difference.
People are only ready to hear what they need to know when they are ready, and not one moment sooner. Getting better at seeing when that is helps, because if you are present at that moment you can really deliver the message. Getting hit on the head with an anvil is only necessary for some of us. A few do learn lessons gracefully and easily, at least some of the time!
You must sit with yourself and “what is” for you. Yes I know that some people find that difficult, if not impossible. Those who cannot do it find themselves creating distractions to get in their way, like games, Facebook, that next program or course, that next guru who can solve all their problems.
There are moments when it is okay to distract yourself. Many times I have sat playing a game when I am processing something…and sometimes that takes months. You have to create your space and it is wise to know when you need processing time to take it all in, digest it, and move on.
We say that there are “no wrong paths” and that’s probably true – you get where you need to go…eventually. You can make it as painful as you want, as long as you feel is necessary, and as expensive as you can stomach. There will be a Reckoning Day. That day you may say to yourself, “Why did I spend thousands of dollars on those courses? Why did I waste my time getting hurt through associating with that coach?” And so on. Still, did you get where you needed to go? If so, then it could be considered time, money, and energy well spent. There is no wrong road, just…some are really painful, and don’t need to be traveled. The next time you find yourself taking action via distraction, please see it for what it is. A detour on your way to becoming fully you.
I figure that the world needs you just as soon as possible. Remember When Harry Met Sally, when Harry said, “I came here tonight because when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible?” That’s your relationship with your soul. That’s your relationship with the world, each of us waiting for you to come fully into being and help us all out.
We are so in this thing together. I need you. Everyone needs you. Yes, you!
For God’s sake, please stop wasting time and energy side tracking yourself with the unnecessary. One of the major time-wasters we use is judgment.
I had a conversation with a friend who called me a “grammar Nazi.” That was on the heels of my crazy relative calling me “Little Miss Perfect” in a nanny-nanny boo-boo voice a few weeks prior. Imagine the look I gave them both, and the conversation that ensued. Talk about the universe giving me a lovely opening to stop them mid-nonsense and take a good, hard look at themselves.
“I am not a grammar Nazi.”
“But don’t you judge the person for making a glaring mistake?”
“I figure they just didn’t get a good education.”
“I make plenty of mistakes myself anyway, who am I to judge them? Maybe they’re right and I’m wrong?”
“You know they’re not right when they spell t-o-o t-o.”
“Yeah, I know that, but what difference does it make?”
It’s A Circus In There, Folks
I want you to seriously look at what difference other people’s experiences make, to you? If they are making what you consider a mistake, either grammatically or morally, trust me when I tell you that thinking so is an error. Remember “people in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones?” It’s not just because their windows might break (Or is that brake? Nah, you knew that one, right?! Who cares?) It’s because you are focused on them and not you. Focusing on you is not self-centered. It is necessary. You have a lot of work to do, on the interior, so you can show up for good. Each one of you has a kernel of good, if not a fully popped bag of circus popcorn in there. Just pop, already.
A Poem, A Mantra, A Prayer
A little download I received recently:
I will begin at the beginning and be open to all that consciousness has for me. This may take one day and one step, or a thousand years, many lifetimes, and hundreds of steps. All is well in my world. I intend to keep my feelings feeling and the eyes of my eyes open. I ask for assistance from all light beings to show me the truth and unburden me through understanding. As quickly as my system can handle it with grace, I accept the solutions that come to me through love.
A quick quote from my favorite poet, e.e.cummings – please take this with you like a mantra, and soon it will be true:
now the ears of my ears are awake, and now the eyes of my eyes are open
Be well and lots of love in these trying times.