Dear Intuitive: A Little Of This, A Little Of That

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You have no idea what other people go through. Think about it, sometimes you don’t even know what you’re really going through! Just be kind, as often as you can, and watch how that energy flows through and to you.

It occurred to me how ironic it is that I discarded my given middle name without a backward glance and replaced it with my maiden name the last time I got married.  Lately I’ve noticed that I require a lot more grace in my life when coping with some specific challenges.  Just like you, I have some personality ummm…quirks…that could use more grace and less personality.  So I began a practice of requesting more grace. I imagined breathing it in from the universal field and breathing it out through my mouth (and presumably any words spoken through that mouth, that day).  The irony is, my middle name was Grace.

Today is a mishmash of Dear Intuitive questions that have been trickling in.

Fate v Destiny?  Parallel Lives?

A reader states:

In your article How Not To Get Lost On The Road Of Your Soul’s Journey you forgot to mention the concept of destiny vs. fate… aka “everything happens for a reason”.  You can change your destiny but what about your fate?  What about the concept of time and time travel, in the sense that you never know what affect a small thing you change in your journey will have on your future or the future of others.  

Sometimes the big choices (or what you think are big choices) along the way really don’t have that great an impact on your future.  Also, some small things that you would not consider pivotal end up being major, life altering choices.  So sometimes it is fear, sometimes it is laziness, and sometimes who knows… Fate?

There does seem to be an element of “fate”, or things that are just going to happen no matter what else we do.

There is a ripple effect.  Since we’re all connected, you’ll simply never know the kind of impact your one deed or decision, big or small, ultimately has once it has passed through your hands and affects potentially a multitude of others.  Remember the old shampoo commercial, “And they tell two friends, and they tell two friends, and so on and so on…”?

Sometimes this element of “fate” relates back to what we call (ironically) Destiny Points.  You agreed to them before you were born, they are to take place to further your spiritual growth, and no matter what else you do or don’t do, they will happen.  These are few and far between, however.

I love the idea of us living “six parallel lives.”  Similar to the movie Sliding Doors, at some point we split and go our separate ways.  Maybe five other ways.  Imagine you’ve reached a decision point, and exercising your free will, you make a choice.  Suppose that you don’t have to wonder about the impact of that choice because you are actually living it out, in some other dimension?  Maybe even in this dimension, although that probably isn’t possible, lest you bump into yourself, which could create all kind of complications.

Legitimate scientists are actually working on this now.  Maybe in our lifetime it won’t all be conjecture.  In the meantime, I like the idea of being able to peek over my own fence to see what else I might be doing, or how making a different choice might have turned out.

How To Get Your Spirit Guides To Talk To You

A reader asks: 

Sometimes I feel like my guides are out to lunch, what is normal communication with your guides? How get I get mine to be chattier?!

There really is no “normal.”  Your level of perception is what’s different.  The guides are with you, communicating messages, all of the time.  The question is, how do you become aware of what and how they are communicating?

You need to know your primary Clair.  You may not be clairaudient, so if you’re looking for a guide to talk to you so that you can hear it with your internal or external ear, then you’re missing everything they’re sending you in other ways.

How much time have you spent on discovering how to communicate with your team?  You can say,”I’d like to form a friendship or relationship with you.  How can I best do that?”  Any overture you make to wanting to contact them and learn to access you intuition will absolutely be met with an answer.

If you’ve been asking and asking and not feeling like you’re “getting anything” then the best thing to do is to quiet your mind through daily meditation.  You have to get to the point where you have “eyes that see and ears that hear.”  That is a process.  It won’t happen by trying to focus in the middle of a stressed, busy day.  You have to start by creating a quiet space in your head so you can actually be alert to the impulses, feelings, and messages coming through.

If you don’t know anything about your team and you’re not sure what your primary Clair is, just schedule an intuitive development counseling session.  I access information through all of the Clairs.  When I speak to your team I will find out who your guides are and how they communicate with you, as well as pass on any messages they have for you right now.  I am a firm believer that we humans do better when we have a “name” and some identifying characteristics of our guides, so we can connect with them.  Guides don’t care what we call them, but they will oblige and provide a reference point that will make sense to you.  They do understand our struggles in trying to reach out to them and, more importantly, they have the answers.

What Is This Ringing In My Ears?

A reader asks:

At random times I get this tingling feeling on the side of my head, around my ears, almost like a chill but it’s not cold. It feels like that area expands and contracts for about 30 seconds. Sometimes it’s on the left, sometimes on the right side. I’ve thought that maybe my guides were trying to get through to me that way, but when I stop and ask or listen I don’t get anything. So I’m not sure what or who it is or what it means.

It sounds like you have a chakra expansion going on and your intuition is opening up.  If you’re working on your intuitive development in general, and your Third Eye starts to crack open, you might find activity in that (or even another) part of your body.  Probably there is no specific message at that time, it’s more like a physical reaction to your opening awareness.

 I used to hear marching men in my ears/forehead, like,”March!  March!” (Or, that might have been my blood pressure!)
Tingling and chills are commonly associated with being in the presence of angels or being touched closely by another dimension in your three-dimensional world.  Everyone experiences these things differently, but it sounds like an opening awareness to me.

Medication Is Messing With My Communication

A reader asks:
How do you reconnect with your guides or pick up on signs if medication is making things foggy or blank?
Remember that your guide team always knows what’s going on with you.  It’s not like you have to tell them, they are already three (or a hundred) steps ahead.  Ask them to bring you a solution.  You don’t always have to have the answers to everything.  It’s especially when you’re confuzzled that they will be able to help you.  You can say,”SHOUT LOUDER!” (I’m kidding) or just tell them that you would like their assistance in coming up with a no-fault way for you to get their messages because at the moment, you are out of it.  Then wait to see what shows up.

Keep sending your questions in to contact (at) julielangdonbarrett (dot) com or use the Contact form.

I’ll leave you with this:

You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here.

And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should. – Max Ehrmann (Desiderata)