Archives for December 2014

Romance, Soul Mates and Energetic Matches



That’s us, married on a Friday the 13th, under a full moon, in the year 2000.

The place was Cavallos, a restaurant without a sign that you would never find unless you were a local in the know.

It might look like a mural in the background, but it wasn’t.  We got married outside on a beautiful sunny day with a full host of angelic statuary imported from Italy all around the garden.

We were married by a minister named Tex.

My husband stomped on the glass.

But – almost everyone in that photo is dead.

My sister-in-law, who stood up for me, died tragically on Christmas Eve that year.

Seated on the left, front row, was Grandma Lucy, Grandma Jenny, my mother and my father.  To the right is Grandpa Pat and my niece Aurora.  In the second row left are family friends Leon and Doris.  Of that group only my father, Aurora and Doris are still here in all their glory.

Joe, the best man, is alive and well and in fact my husband just stood up for him in August at Joe’s second wedding, because -yes- his first wife died.

So I don’t take the wedding album out too often!

Another thing I noticed was that in fourteen years since this photo was taken, holy cow and oh boy have I aged.  So much so that I showed my oldest son my wedding photo and he had no idea who the bride was.

Here I was:

me wedding 3

For those of you in the know, here I am with Paul:

me and paul

And my new husband:

me and derek wedding

Now I realize that these are all formal photographs that the photographer posed us for, but if you read energy through photos as I tend to do, I’ll bet you have a few thoughts forming in your mind.

Look at the photo on the top. This was not the kiss. This was my to-be husband holding me forehead to forehead.

The photo with Paul radiates friendship to me, but interestingly many people asked me if he was my husband when I brought the photos into work. What they are mistaking is an “energy match” for romance.  There is equality here.  We are standing fully front, side by side, not turned toward each other.  Similar life lessons are going to be learned by these two people, they’ll know each other probably until death.  On that day neither of us had an inkling that we would be each other’s spiritual teacher one day, but Paul is currently my favorite person to discuss such things with.  If you had spoken a spiritual word to him then he probably would have spit in your face.  If you had spoken a spiritual word to me then I would have rolled my eyes and wondered if perhaps you had fallen off your rocker?

The photo with my husband, though posed in a classic way, shows the nature of our relationship quite clearly.  Notice how protective he is.  He stands above me but turned toward me.  I am completely submissive sitting on my boulder with my Mikimoto pearls and blue flowers.  If you had to guess, what would you say would happen with this couple?

Soul Mates – Expect The Unexpected?

My most popular post here at A Clear Sign is still the reigning Telepathy Between Soul Mates and Twin Flames?

Someone suggested I write more on the subject and said that the most valuable relationships they’ve had have been the ones that were unexpected.

I honestly couldn’t think of any that I would define as unexpected.  When I think back over personal history, they all seem by design.

If you think back over your life, do you have someone you would define as “the one that got away?”

Do you have friends of the opposite sex who are decades long partners in crime?

Is there someone you could say absolutely anything to, and know they would not judge you?

Who knows where the bodies are buried?

Who holds your secrets?

Who do you want to confide in, when something astonishing, confusing or exciting happens?

These are your soul mates.

I don’t restrict soul mates to romantic relationships, soul mates seem to be everywhere in our lives!  If you have a long term relationship it’s guaranteed to be a soul mate.  Others will come for a season, others for the long haul.  But no matter how long they are in your life, can you imagine them now, one by one?  Who is important to you, no matter how small the label they have in your life?  Obviously the wives, husbands, partners, children and best friends are soul mates.  Your boss, colleagues, neighbors and in-laws are also soul mates although they tend to more often be the type who are, shall we say, difficult?

People want to know if romance will work out.  They want to know that if they divorce someone else will come along, and they won’t be alone forever.

Some have longings for others that are so deep they would throw their life as they know it completely out the window for fulfillment of that one relationship.

Where do you think this comes from?

Usually it seems to be a soul calling, and it resonates so deeply because you are drawn to this person from a place you can’t even put your finger on.

I won’t say that there is just one person for you, or even just a few.  This is a big world and though the internet access has us bumping into one another in a way that would have been impossible before, usually “your person” has to be fairly nearby to make anything happen.

Are You An Energetic Match?

They say that you find people who are your “energetic match.”  The glue that holds a relationship together sometimes dries up and you fall apart.  You can call it “growing apart” but what is really happening is you are falling out of energetic match.

When that happens, you can decide to rise up to meet the person where they are, or vice-versa, but there will be plenty of times when they are not scheduled to have the same experience as you, your karma has completed cycle, and you’re done.  This can most easily be seen when people split up and one party says they “fell out of love” and the other says they “thought everything was fine.”  No, if you examine closely, you’ll find that the one who fell out of love simply refused to rise to the new occasion presented by the one who thought it was fine.  It’s subconscious, but the first party will have felt increasingly uncomfortable and uneasy around the second party, for some reason they couldn’t put their finger on.  There is a reason – it’s the energy.

I find “energetic matches” all of the time through the internet, in other bloggers.  It’s like I “recognize” the person when I read their writing.

Interestingly I was drawn to an astrology book that focuses very narrowly on the 5th house called Karmic Dates and Momentary Mates: The Astrology Of The Fifth House.  I already have a “mate” so I resisted at first but it kept calling to me so I bought it and here’s what I found out.  I do indeed have a fifth house planet (not a good thing, points to lessons and some work to be done) and it spells out that in Jungian terms, I am The Conversationalist.   Friendships, playmates and creative partnerships are like air to me – I need them.  You’ve heard me mention before that I surround myself with funny intellectuals, right?  Apparently it’s written in my chart.

It’s also written in my chart that I attract writers and musicians (you know, those people who write the lyrics or write the tunes), and it tells me why.  I have said many times that about 40% of the people who read A Clear Sign AND who got readings from me were writers, usually professional ones, not just dabblers for a hobby.  Now I know why.

If you have those sort of odd groups coming to you or you see repeating patterns in your relationships but can’t quite figure out why you cannot seem to resolve them, check out that book – it’s short, sweet and pretty fascinating.

It made me laugh to find out I am sapiosexual (sounds like someone who likes aliens or reptiles or something, doesn’t it?!) – someone who is attracted by intelligence in others.  You can have big ears – I don’t care, the better for you to hear me, probably.  I do not care what you look like, I want to know that you have a brain in there, if we are interested in the same subjects, and then, game on.

That applies to friends in the exact same way.  So often we confuse soul mate sightings with romantic partners – don’t do that.  If they call to you really strongly it’s because you recognize them on the soul level, or “remember” them energetically.  It usually is not these people who hit us over the head with their energy that are supposed to be romantic partners.

We “see” ourselves reflected back in others.  Ultimately we want to be fully seen by others.  It’s a validation that we belong here, we are equal to others, and that someone else thinks so too and finds us worthy of spending time with.  This is not the same as caring about what others think of us, no.  It’s a life force need.  It cannot be met by just anyone.

It has to be met by the person(s) whose opinion we value, at soul level.  It’s not a surface need.  It’s a soul level need and it only gets fulfilled by those our soul sees as necessary.  There is that energetic match again, and it comes forward full throttle when we see the specific soul mates who are sent to see us as we are.  We do have soul contracts with these people, planned before we ever got here, and they will show up at the right time.

Do You Feel What I Feel?

You may know the song Broken Arrow by Robbie Robertson as it was more famously sung by Rod Stewart.  This was running through my head all day as I was thinking of my wedding and some questions I was asked lately about how to know when love is true and when it is a figment of our imagination, not meant to find fulfillment.  I had to italicize where I felt this references how a Soul Contract feels!  So in a nod to my romantics, here is a song for you:

Who else is gonna bring you a broken arrow
Who else is gonna bring you a bottle of rain
There he goes moving across the water
There he goes turning my whole world around

Do you feel what I feel
Can we make it so that’s part of the deal
I gotta hold you in these arms of steel
Lay your heart on the line this time

I wanna breathe when you breathe
When you whisper like that hot summer breeze
Count the beads of sweat that cover me
Didn’t you show me a sign this time

Who else is gonna bring you a broken arrow
Who else is gonna bring you a bottle of rain
There he goes moving across the water
There he goes turning my whole world around, around

Do you feel what I feel
Do you feel what I feel
Ah can you see what I see
Can you cut behind the mystery
I will meet you by the witness tree
Leave the whole world behind

I want to come when you call
I’ll get to you if I have to crawl
They can’t hold me with these iron walls
We got mountains to climb, to climb

Who else is gonna bring you a broken arrow
Who else is gonna bring you a bottle of rain
There he goes moving across the water
There he goes turning my whole world around
turning my whole world around

What’s a Witness Tree?

In land surveying, a property corner sometimes cannot be marked because the true point lies on a cliff or in a  swamp, stream, or lakebed. A substitute may be established on any one of the surveyed lines leading to the true corner and within a distance of ten chains (660 feet) from it. Such a stand-in is known as a witness corner, and the monument placed there is the witness mark, witness post, or witness stake. A witness tree is a large tree so situated that it can serve as the reference point. The Umbrella Tree, a huge Douglas fir near Deep River, Washington, was a famous witness tree saved from logging for that purpose. In his book A Witness Tree (1942), Robert Frost describes one in a poem called “Beech”: the title tree, having been “impressed as Witness Tree,” allows truth to be “established and borne out,/though circumstanced with dark and doubt.”

From what I have witnessed, you know when you have “your one.”  There are deals, signs, mystery, usually struggle and calling and crawling (not always) and there should be a damn Witness Tree to mark your love, that’s how it feels to you BOTH.