The Qualities of Ghosts, Spirit Guides and Intuition

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I completely missed Halloween this year and I didn’t even write a single spooky word.

Sure, I took my kids trick or treating, but the usual “something extra” that seems to permeate the air on Halloween was completely missing this year.

You know why?

Because whatever used to keep this world and the afterlife world separate – “the veil” – is pretty much missing.

I have been so spun up in my own personal drama lately that under ordinary circumstances I wouldn’t even think of trying to do reliable intuitive work. There is a simple but consistent ritual that I follow to get into the zone, and while it’s still a good idea for the sake of good psychic hygiene, it is technically not necessary anymore.

Missing Objects and Finder Guides

Case in point, my husband came home unexpectedly for his medical tests and he wanted to get caught up on the house chores he hasn’t been home to do since June.  One of them was shaving the dog down, but we couldn’t find the Wahl pet groomer set anywhere.  Usually I do the looking for the lost things since no one else here can see what is right in front of their faces sometimes.  This time I was stumped.  I looked absolutely everywhere that was obvious.

I had a thought bubble pop into my mind of a cabinet in my dressing area.  It showed up half an hour before too but so had a lot of other images that proved fruitless.  I hadn’t looked there because it seemed so implausible that this was where it was.

But I know one thing.  Anytime I lose something and I ask for help finding it, even if I am just saying to myself,”What in the world did I do with it?”, a picture will pop into my head in a particular way that shows me where it is.

So I looked in my closet and found the groomer set exactly where Spirit showed me it would be.

Hoodwinked or Guided By Spirit?

Someone I’ve never met and have no connection to died right before my husband left.  I was asked to find out where he wanted to be buried, since he died on vacation.  Would he like his body to remain there, or to go home?

The person who asked me to do this is a complete non-believer, so the request in itself was odd.  I felt I was in no state of mind to talk to dead people, but it was one of those things that they had to know right then and there.  My husband was texting me and woke me up at 4am (5am his time, but not sure he was conscious of the fact that we had just changed the time and he hadn’t).

The night before I had mentioned to my Akashic Records Guide that I wanted to connect with this man in the morning, if he was available.  As I tried to go back to sleep, I did a half hearted request, knowing that I was going to be out of time once my alarm went off again, but there was no doubt I was about as relaxed as I could get – I was exhausted.

Sure enough, a man popped in to my visual scene in my head.  I had a feeling I was bothering him, like he was busy.  I mentally explained who I was, and how I was connected to the person who made the request, as well as why they wanted me to get in touch.

He left.

Another man popped onto the scene.  Where the first man appeared on the right, this one appeared on the lower left.

He was an elderly man, just like the last.  He sent me two sentences, which I heard in my head.  Up on the hill.  Where I can see everything.  He gave me a visual of the hill.

Without saying anything, he gave me the impression that the person in question was very busy and kind of bothered by my asking, because he didn’t care about things like where he’d be buried very much right at that moment.

The first man showed me that he was very protective by nature, as witnessed by the game of Six Degrees of Kevin Bacon I had to play to get him to acknowledge me at all:

“Hi I’m Julie Barrett, an intuitive here to ask you about where you would like to be buried because your wife would like to know.”  Nothing.

“So-and-so sent me.”  Nothing.

“So-and-so is the son of This Man from This Place.”  Finally he looked at me before pretty much immediately leaving, but I knew in that last instant that I had connected with the right person, because I had said the Magic Word and I could feel it when he made the connection.

So when I got up for the day I sent a brief text explaining where he wanted to be buried.  I did not question which country he wanted to be buried in, because I was given the idea that the wife already knew this, and if she heard “up on the hill where I can see everything” she would know what that meant.

Sometimes spirits want to chat and sometimes they totally don’t.  Just like you get vibes from living, breathing humans, you get vibes from spirits who have passed over.  You just read their energy in much the same way.

I wrote a text to my non-believer friend, explaining what the spirit looked like and what was said.

He wrote back,”He was a very tall man.  You got hoodwinked.”

I realized that when I wrote,”He was a cute little man,” it gave the impression that I thought he was short.  In fact, I had only seen his head, as is often the case when I see spirit guides.

My friend had already told me he was an elderly, very tall man, but since I was half asleep and kind of not in the mode of doing readings as much as a favor in the moment, I had forgotten.  That is a good thing, because you don’t want to do a reading, even one on the fly like this, with too much information in advance.

Telling The Difference Between Ghosts, Spirit Guides, and Passed Relatives

Having had a little more coffee, I realized that what probably happened was the first man who left was the spirit I was trying to contact, and the second man that I spoke to was likely one of his spirit guides or another similar helper.

Why do I think this?  Because when I am contacting a “ghost” (terrible word, conjures up the impression that it’s something creepy or evil rather than simply a human being who has passed on) they almost always appear on my right, either in front of or behind me.  Spirit guides don’t.

“Ghosts” have a very particular quality when they come through at my request to talk to me on behalf of someone else.  It’s kind of like they are another person in the room with you.  Their presence is palpable, and you absolutely cannot miss when they are there and when they are gone.  At least, this is my vernacular, my way of knowing what type of entity I am dealing with.  I can definitely FEEL them in the room with me and hear them plain as day.

Not so Spirit Guides, who again are spirits who were once human just like us, but when they come through they seem more distant to me.  They will show me, tell me, make me feel, give me an impression, throw me a visual, but they aren’t as close feeling as a “ghost.”

I very often have people’s grandparents come through, for some reason, if a friend is having a hard time or asking for advice.  “Close relatives of this person” feel a bit more like Spirit Guides than Ghosts, I think because they come through in an advisory capacity, just like a Guide.

If it is my relative or friend, here to support or give me advice, I usually sense them in the back seat of my car or sitting next to me on the couch.  They will pop songs into my head, or I hear them answering my own thoughts.  For instance I was thinking,”He’s probably constipated,” and in my head I heard an answer out of the blue,”Better than twitterpated” – a reference to Bambi – and I knew my Mom was there.

To be honest I had a completely different post planned and half written this morning before I left for an appointment, a personal one to catch you up on Goatie leaving for his new home and my husband’s visit, but I kept having a recurring thought pop in,”You are complaining!”  I realized that someone, somewhere was going to take issue with what I wrote, so I decided to scrap it and write nothing this week.

When I got home I saw article after article about mediumship and speaking to ghosts (which believe it or not I almost never run across in my news stream!) and I was given a very heavy handed hint to relate some of the different ways that entities communicate with me, or how my system distinguishes one from the next, so I know there is someone out there reading this that needs the nudge to start looking at how information is coming through to them.

Is it you?

If you’ve been having lots of “visits” lately or have had the impression you are communicating with ghosts, relatives who have passed, or your own guide team more easily or differently lately, I’d love to know about your experiences.  If you have any questions about this, please ask or tell your stories in the Comments.

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  1. Anne McCarroll says:

    I agree with you, Julie, about the difference between guides and ghosts…I was giving a reading the other day and the woman’s grandfather clearly stood in the room – checking on what I was doing. He didn’t like me there; when I asked the sitter about it, she said he probably was there- the room was filled with his furniture and mementos…it was an odd sort of encounter. However, guides came through in a way that was ‘cleaner’, which makes sense and seems somewhat obvious.
    I also agree about the veil being more gone than not. My home was like a train stop the other day; I sent the children to school and cleaned the house, smudging after the physical clean up and that sage was so smoky, I was shocked. I’ve not had smoke like that in all the years of my practice.
    Great (and timely)post.

    • Anne, that’s interesting! I’ve never smudged, so it never occurred to me that you could tell a lot about what was going on by the quality of the smoke. I usually open the windows, change the air filters, and make a request to clear the house and white light the entire property. Actually I make that request nightly since you never know who or what might be tracking through.

  2. I’ve never communicated with the departed or anyone’s Guides before. But more recently I’m seeing things out of the corner of my eye. Sometimes I think the cat has come into my room and it’s nothing (and sometimes the cat will come in a few moments later). But that’s the extent of it. I’ve never been particularly sensitive to this sort of thing.

    And I had a recurring dream last night, so nothing new on that front either. :3

    But it’s really cool to see your process. People always talk about The Veil but… I guess it’s not gone? I suppose the increase in consciousness whether from spiritualistic or mindful practice probably is helping break down any barriers between living humans and the deceased – or guides or what have you.
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    • Tatiana, Yeah, it’s not the cat 🙂 You might be sensing what the cat is up to, though! They say animals are quite clear on what we are thinking, and though I don’t know about that I will say they are very empathetic, especially dogs. Cats are more like,”Hey, don’t even think about not feeding me and my box needs to be cleaned again.” But when you see things moving around out of the corner of your eye it is a pretty sure sign you are noticing spirit activity.

  3. What about feeling very strongly emotions that aren’t yours? Do you know what I mean? Like, a sense of loneliness or despair when you yourself are not lonely or despairing? But you can tell there is someone close by who IS feeling that way, even though you can’t see them. Is that the veil thinning, dyou think?

    • No, that’s empathy, uncontrolled. You want to practice good psychic hygiene and do exercises to protect yourself and clarify what is your energy and what is someone else’s. I have written articles on Empaths which contain that information and you can also Google for it and easily find good information.

  4. anonymouse says:

    This made me laugh b.c the past few years I have had more ‘oh, that’s something stopping by’ feeling. I like to call them cosmic interlopers 🙂 One night at our old place I kept feeling like I was being stared at (I know, such a ghost show cliche) but it was like urgent ‘hey! pay attention to me!’ sort of thing. Not bad just wanting attention. So I thought (like they say with creative writing when you start, don’t ‘edit’ yourself at first just write) what are my initial impressions. In my mind I thought someone/(thing?) was actually peeking at me – from around the large column between the two rooms. Then I felt a playful energy, like it was peekign at me hide and seek style. Anyway as if on cue the cat raised his tail and cocked his head ears flattened. Ok, I was on to something maybe. Then my friend came over (he can see spirits) and I opened the door halfway and darted back into the kitchen to bring some plates. He screamed a moment later. I asked why he said ‘I saw a shadow of a torso, a man , a hat on and it was peeking around the open door at me’. That floored me! I cannot see them, have heard random sounds (always one word, very frustrating) but that was neat to hear confirmation of my hunch.

    A commenter mentioned seeing thigns out of the corner of her eye. That has happened often too. Last week I saw a short white blur rush past the corner kitchen area. Blink-and-you-miss it sort of thing. I blew it off. Another taller darker shadow of movement in the kitchen. Then my husband, a sort of believer but die hard logic saw a ‘small person’ walk into the kitchen and ‘something heavy walking past him’. So confirmation is good. Oddly whenever I feel like something is there (or see quick movement but unsure) I get a confirmation from someone else. I felt like a male eneegy was in the kitchen one day, just popped into my head like a random thought then said out loud ‘Ok, that was weird’. Then answered the phone and my mom (who hears spirit) said ‘What was THAT??? ‘ when I answered. She said she heard a male voice gruffly talking over me. Not a cordless phone, cell where that has never happened to me before. So almost as if they are saying ‘yep. that’s us’. Really made me laugh.

    Sonia Choquette wrote about finder guides I think, I have to re read that book but i found it so neat. Scouts I think some of them are called, they help with stuff. Who can’t use more of that.

    I hope your husband’s medical tests went with flying colors. And I am sure goatie’s departure will make things somewhat less chaotic around there! ha

    • The man with the hat sounds like a Shadow Person. I might have your house cleared and do some smudging because shadow people are not positive and I’m a little uneasy with the experienced people in your life freaking out over what they are seeing/hearing (the talking over on the phone doesn’t jazz me). You sound like you feel perfectly comfortable with it all but I just thought I’d mention it.

      • anonymouse says:

        yikes… i have heard those suckers are not exactly good to have around. The good news is we moved from that place a year later:)

  5. Bless you Julie.

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