Negativity, Boxes, and Just Plain Fun

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Well, it’s only plain fun if you can get enjoyment from seeing negativity expose itself and have nowhere to hide.

Right now there are massive, global shifts going on, where light is being shone like a flashlight illuminating negativity and ill intent.  Like a bug in the night when the kitchen lights get turned on, expect to be shocked when the status quo suddenly shifts and people show you who they really are, and events unravel suddenly and swiftly.  Be prepared to turn on a dime and make new plans when this happens, trusting that it is for the greater good or at least in the spirit of light over darkness.

You will have the opportunity to see truth.  Trust that wherever that is revealed to you, it is there for you to have that knowledge for a reason.

When Relationships and Situations End For Good

Synchronicity has been calling lately, as have the signs that are writing on the wall that some situations and relationships are over.

There has been so much activity that I am surprised a sonic boom has not emanated from my house.

Have you ever had a situation where people behaved so badly that you were simply done?  I have, this week.

It’s that moment when transgressions are forgiven and forgotten until they start to add up in such a momentous way that you suddenly find yourself trying to recall when this all started.  Your mind starts digging for the half forgotten details.  Then they start to come back into your consciousness, slowly.  This seemingly “big event” where they show their true colors shouldn’t have been a surprise at all.

Everyone has their way of dealing with this.  Some people are “easy going” and let things slide.  They might have a tad more zen in their life or they may be boundary-less pushovers.  Other people take the Sicilian approach.  Some take it for a bit to keep the peace and then, one fine day, it is O-V-E-R and it stays that way.  The last is the way it has come about for me.

Sure they act confused for a while.  They ask me,”Is there something wrong?” and I just say,”Nope,” with a smile.  Really, that’s the truth – there is nothing wrong.  Anymore.

An Eye For An Eye Makes The Whole World Blind

There are many relationships that have been on the rails for a while now, and yet somehow people are finding that they are being shown ways and given opportunities to come back together.  This may be because their soul contracts are still at work, and in the greater scheme of things it is time for them to pull back together to stand as a united front for the battles that may soon emerge.

Then in other cases you may have someone who you really depended upon or thought was a partner – for business, romance, or otherwise – and it turns out that it is glaringly exposed as false.

There are times to go to war.  How bloody should it have to get?  You can get Machiavellian about it, an eye for an eye.  Sometimes you are right but it’s no help to you because it cannot change anything.  Walking away is always a fine option.  You may find yourself doing a lot more walking in the near future than you had anticipated.

Boxed In and Breaking Free

When you’re in the energy of cutting ties and associations, sometimes you get put in a box.  That happened this week, when I was told that there was going to be one outcome on Friday, which was a huge relief, and by Tuesday I found out that they had changed their mind and were going in the completely opposite direction.  That meant that I could no longer have that association or that plan, and I have to come up with a totally new one.

I did some research, but I found that there were no obvious solutions that would hit both of the main areas I have no choice but to hit.  As I was getting a pounding headache, my friend Michael, who writes the blog Healed Spirit, wrote to me, “Sounds like you’re being boxed in, which usually works like a cattle chute to get you to take a particular way out.”

It can be tough not to get mired in negativity when you are being dealt a hand that looks poor, but that’s when you have to remember that logic and what’s right in front of your face will only take you so far.  You must believe in the divine hand guiding yours.  You must believe in miracles.  You must believe that sometimes there is no choice left but to smack you over the head with truth and reality, leaving you no options, so that you are forced to move on to a situation which is better.

There IS a solution, it WILL be brought to you one way or the other, and JUST MAYBE it’s meant to be and for the greater good.

If you expect disaster, you often get it.  If you expect a miracle, one is often delivered.  In the meantime, do everything you can do to gather all of the information until the highest solution is presented.

When some people get their way, notice how they will say their idea was great, but the alternative stinks.  When the tables get turned on them, suddenly the alternative is what was really needed all along.  They will also hear what they want to hear.

I had several conversations where one person totally disagreed with the other, in private conversations with me separately, but after they spoke alone and got back to me, the one said that the other agreed with her.  No, she didn’t.  I was there.  I might miss things sometimes but I don’t miss diametrically opposed opinions.  So if you find yourself in a conflict or a situation where there are a lot of players, “keep your own mind in mind” and don’t let them obfuscate and make you think you’re going nuts or must be confused.  You’re not.  It’s them, not you.

Overall, there is a lot of energy that is shaking up the status quo, changing all your best laid plans, and clearing the runway for your impending takeoff in another (maybe unexpected) direction.  When this happens to you, don’t let anyone sidetrack you with their bull. Don’t let anyone bully you, either.

My Mom used to always say,”If they’re mad, so they’ll get glad.”

That’s a very polite way of saying,”You do what you need to do and to hell with everyone else.”

Don’t be too shocked if someone who was screaming their head off,”NO WAY!” this morning suddenly listens to you and maybe even agrees in the afternoon.  That’s the kind of energy we are in.

 How Not To Think Of Personal Stress and Disaster

When things in your life shake up and relationships end, it can be difficult not to get stressed and panicky.  Try to avoid seeing the situation through the lens of despair.  Try remembering that your life can just as easily be viewed as an opportunity for play and experimentation.  Whatever you do, expand rather than retract your focus.  Look at the forest first.  Get clear on the outcome you want – the big picture version, without any conditions on how you get there.

You don’t hang on to something for fear that nothing will ever replace it.

All things work for good.  If you feel stuck or embroiled in a bad situation for which no obvious solution presents itself – yet – remember that at some stage, you will have an answer, you will get resolution, and that you have divine assistance and intervention on your side in all things.

Have you had any major shake-ups in your life lately?  Have people unexpectedly exposed themselves?  Have you noticed the light illuminating the dark?

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  1. Hi Julie

    I don’t interact with many people these days due to the fact I don’t have a job. It is nice to be out of that mess and I do know of what you are talking about. Some folks can leave you so frustrated and want to scream because of their two face ways.

    I now expect miracles and I just let frustrations go. If I don’t react they can’t get to me. (I was going to say “can’t get my goat”, but I thought best to leave the goat out, since he is taking far too much rap lately!)

    Been throwing stuff out from years back and with it came a lot of miserable memories. So as I sat there cutting up old cancelled checks, out went the anger that had been smoldering. Can’t do anything about the past and if it rises to a problem, I will deal with it whatever way I have to. If it is not what I figure should be, well then maybe the option will be the right path. I am just leaving it to the universe to do what is best for my journey.

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    • Hi Mary, Oh, c’mon, blame the goat 🙂 I love throwing out old stuff…I ran into a huge box of old work papers and I felt SO much lighter when I threw them in the big construction dumpster!!

  2. Hey Julie,
    I enjoyed the way that you have set this out … strong statements, straight to the point. I like that …

    Be good to yourself
    Life Coach. Listener. Solution Finder.
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  3. Loretta says:

    “Been throwing stuff out from years back and with it came a lot of miserable memories.” Ditto here. And now I’m at the airport traveling across the country to a nieces graduation where I fully expect family members to show their true colors.
    Thanks as always for the timely advice

  4. Hi Julie,
    I had an unexpected shake-up but it was with my health. I had a scare over the weekend which caused me to check and see if my retina was becoming detached. Talk about scary. I did all I could but could not surmount the fear this wrought on me.
    It turned out okay. I just had a floater which will settle or fade in time as my brain decides it’s not worth noticing anymore. Funny about that – BEFORE the eye appointment with the specialist the floater inspired fear, and now it’s just there.
    I have also noticed intense discussions and huge epiphanies lately. What a lovely time we’re in!
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  5. Oh yes lots of things! My neighbors, who also have a dog and smoke cigarettes like no tomorrow have been bullying me. I’ve done nothing wrong, but tried to be a friend, and out of the blue they just stopped talking to me. Spit on my car and then tried to get me evicted by telling lies when my dog doesn’t bark at night. They have become inconsiderate and dont work so they stay up late making noise and I can’t breathe from the 2nd hand smoke. I don’t understand people who believe in karma and they do these things to me. And I was having a bad moment the other day, I was really sad and my mom turned it around and brought up things of the past. She turned around from trying to comfort me into then saying nasty names and hanging up on me. When all I kept saying, is you’re not hearing me. I’m ready for things to turn around.

    • Monica, Well that sounds most unpleasant. I especially do not enjoy when someone is supposedly empathizing with you and suddenly they are acting like the enemy. Yup, let’s push this train and get it over the cliff!

  6. There are things and situations we encounter that are tough, sometimes overwhelming, and there is no way around them. There is only through.
    I like and resonate with what you’ve said and how you are dealing with it all. Sometimes it has to get worse before it gets better.
    I’m sorry you’re having to deal with all that B.S., but you certainly have the right attitude toward it. That’s what makes you strong, builds your character, and continues to inspire others. I appreciate your candor. As you experience these things, learn from them and share them, we in turn do too. So it’s not all for nothing.

    • Ayla, No, it’s all for a purpose, I know you are right about that. Nonetheless it sure would be nice to have an entire year where we could look and say how pleasant, fun and easy it was. Right now I am trying to rub together two weeks like that! But…onward 🙂

  7. Anne McCarroll says:

    Earthquake shakeups! Check! Weird close outs to relationships: check!
    I cannot remember a time when things felt so much like a hellish Disney ride – I am counting on spiritual advice to guide my hand, so to speak, and I’ve never been so sure of and glad for miracles in my life! Aaaaaah!

    • Anne, I am hoping for one of those miracles in one of the situations I alluded to! We really need one. It was so shocking and no decent choice was given, so I know something is going to come along. “A hellish Disney ride” is an apt description!

  8. Wow. This is an incredibly powerful post, Julie! The energy in it is virtually bouncing off the screen. I’ve been in turmoil for a couple of weeks and suddenly today feel calm again, so yes, there is some powerful stuff going on. I like the idea of the cattle chute–it conjures up a hell-bent ride with a lot of pushing and shoving that ends with openness (well, let’s not think about where the REAL cattle chute leads to…). Good luck, and hold on to your self in this; it sounds like you know exactly what to do, even if you don’t know (yet) where it’s going.
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  9. I do believe Julie that things work out for the best. They are happening because they’re suppose to.

    So I’m leaving in the morning to head out of town to my nephew’s high school graduation. Mind you now, he’s not my blood relative but actually the youngest son of my ex-best friend. We parted ways seven years ago and our situation was probably a lot like what you’re going through now. It wasn’t a pleasant parting and for years she did her best to make me “see the light”.

    I’m nervous about this trip only because I don’t want anything to transpire between us. I’ll do my best to keep my cool but I was up there a few years ago for her daughter’s college graduation and things didn’t go well. Trust me, it was not me… I’ve been over this for awhile now.

    I’m already talking to myself about staying calm, letting it just go in one ear and out the other, I’m praying that with all these years that have passed since our last meeting that it will be all good. I don’t enjoy confrontations and I can’t argue with someone who is ALWAYS right! Know what I mean!

    So, I wish you luck with what’s happening in your life right now and say a little prayer for me too okay! I hope I won’t need it but it doesn’t hurt.

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    • Oh Adrienne, I will certainly say a prayer that everything goes beautifully for you. I want you to enjoy that trip! While I like to be “right” myself, I realize it is few and far between 🙂 After all, there really is no “right” there is just opinion, and it sure is nice when people keep it to themselves! Best of luck xo

  10. When I started reading, I thought you were going to say that the goat was gone–ha!

    Hmm, can’t say that I’ve noticed any major shake ups lately. Although I have learned something very important about someone in my life that explains a lot!

    As always, I love your writing. How’s the goat?
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    • Hi Galen, Oh, if only the goat was gone! He’s a lovable little guy, though. I would actually miss him at this point.

      Thank goodness you haven’t had any major shakeups! Believe it or not, I had another one this morning that competes with the one I referenced here 🙁 Looking for some major uplifting news or a miracle or two!

  11. As always Julie,

    You are right on the money & your blog always comes at a time when I need it most! ( Well I’m actually playing catch up here from last week but none the less). How do I not get my feelings hurt? I am dealing with this issue of one sided friendships right now. I recognize my pattern here as a giver even though I know the love & friendship is never reciprocated. It’s just my nature to be a giver though I’m no pushover! I am the type that takes inventory of it, stocks it on the shelf & then purge the pantry saying that’s it!
    It’s like I’m glutton for punishement, I keep giving & giving knowing the result & then skulk because I was right. Why am I surprised & why am I left feeling hurt & stupid for caring for that person? How can I grow from this somImcan move on from this block?

    • Hi Nicole, At the risk of sounding cavalier, stop thinking of it as a block. The next time you get the intuitive hit that the relationship will end up one-sided ad you’ll be “doing it again,” just stop. Full stop. Tell yourself you are intentionally hanging your patterns and you will accept only relationships that are healthy and have give and take. This is completely within your power (and right) to do. Give it a try and let us know how you feel afterward.

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